Wednesday, August 02, 2006
It's not my party and I cry cause I want to
Dear Marc, you don't have kids do you? And you have a special someone?
Then you're probably welcome everywhere.
As a single person or a parent person, doors close. Otherwise nice people decide to no invite you, because "she probably can't make it" or "she'll be uncomfortable around all these couples".
I was recently uninvited to a gathering with some of the people I love most in this world.
I asked my closest and oldest friend "why did you not invite me?"
He said he assumed I couldn't make it. That the party was so far away, and what with the kids and I don't drive and blah blah blah.
He said I was welcome. I said I did not like to invite myself. But I contemplated reworking the rules. Since he was to hold the party where I already was, in our cabin by the sea, I could send the kids home with my parents and stay where I was, without food, water or car. To show that nothing can stop me! Where there is a party, that's where I'll be!
I will sit there emaciated and dehydrated. Days, perhaps weeks, will have passed before the other party guests arrive. My dress will be bleached by the sun, my hair a shadow of the do I made in preparation for the party. Too tired to talk, I will wear a big sign stating "Perhaps you do not want me here. But I still love you!".
Friends don't let friends forget friends just cause they go on to have little friends.
Now you say they might not want me there, for other reasons.
That's what I secretly think, too. But, being a prettily dressed party martyr, I give them a perfect reason to not invite me next time. A reason that we both understand and can live with.
What did you not get invited to this week?
Ps. Also please list the stuff you were invited to.
Ps 2. That pic above is from a site saying you shouldn't do drugs. Don't do drugs! It's taken from the Sailors Paper. Don't do drugs on boats! and don't sue me for linking to your picture.